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For those who know me best, they know that one of my greatest downfalls is my ability to have others help me. I like to be the woman who can handle it all and do it all. Over the years I have learned to rely on my husband, after all, we are suppose to help each other. But other than that I still fall very short. As Christians, however, we are supposed to be a very humble person. Willing to help those in need and also will to be helped in times of trouble. Often times I forget part of being humble is learning to receive help.
While I was pregnant with my twins I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I was put on bed rest for about 3 months and still, I tried to make sure that did not slow me down. We ended up moving in with my mother in law to save money and ensure that my husband did not lose his mind caring for me and our 2 older boys. Man, that was a humbling experience indeed. Going from the center of my boy’s universe to allowing my mother in law to step in to help with bath time, play times and any other need they may have had. I often tried to continue to overextend myself (which is why my family now says I have my own version of bed rest) and would end myself right back in the hospital which was just torture since it was during flu season so I had to be away from my boys. This was a very hard time for me or so I thought.
Once the twins were born however I had to give up even more control. By this time my husband and I were back t living on our own. My mother in law came to help my husband unpack our home. We decided living 4 doors down from my sweet mother in law would be a great idea just because she would always be just a phone call away. This was great planning because once Hannah and Isaac were born our world turned upside down. Isaac was placed in an ICU unit which left us with 3 at home and we still needed to visit Isaac as much as was physically possible. Again it was my mother in law to the rescue. Only not only would she come down to watch the children she would also clean while she was here!! Very humbling considering I knew I was in way over my head and she knew I would not ask for help!
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 1Peter 5:6
God wants us to love and care for each other. But God also wants us to accept the help that He sends our way. We must humble ourselves to truly understand and receive the gift of our salvation. It is, in fact, a humbling experience to realize that someone loves and cares for us so deeply and completely. We also need to start looking at our brothers and sisters in Christ in a new humbling light as well. Willing to give them our time and energy as well as allow them to do the same for us. I have always been a free giver of my time but not so much the receiver of others time. Yet another lesson my children have and are teaching me on a daily basis. I am so glad and thankful that God has put in place people in my life that are willing to be patient with me and willing to insist that I allow them to help me.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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Beautiful post! It’s not easy to accept help as women because we are supposed to be the care givers. It’s wonderful that you were able to accept the help and appreciate it during such trying times.
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You are so right. Isn’t it amazing how God can put us in situations where we need the most help learning a life lesson
I was humbled by all of the things I could NOT do when my son was in the NICU. I couldn’t stay with him in the hospital because I had a three year old who was not allowed, we had no family around to help and my husband was working because we needed the money. I realized that I could not do it all and needed family for help. This is such a touching and beautiful post! Thanks for sharing and linking up with Countdown in Style! Don’t forget to come back on Friday to see if you were featured!
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Oh I completely understand what you mean. When our youngest twin was in NICU I wondered how in the world was I going to care for 3 small ones and still give him the time and attention he needed as well. Once again God provided people to come with prepared meals and my mother in law would come babysit as I would go to the hospital. Granted my husband had to drive since I was under doctors care. It is a very humbling experience as well. It also makes you appreciate them all the more.
This is definitely such a wonderful display of how important it is to allow people to help when you need them to. I definitely let my husband help proudly when he wants to. I try not to ask about too many big things often during the week since I know he is tired, but on weekends, I always ask him to help me with things. I always offer to help him as well. As a mom of 4, I can totally see why you were used to doing everything and being needed. It is so wonderful being needed by my husband and my little boy. Thanks so much for sharing your heart and God’s word with us at Countdown in Style! Don’t forget to stop by to see if you are featured on Friday! xo