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My husband is a sit to the sidelines kinda man. He will gladly let me make decisions and choices for our family. Often times I won’t even realize that I have taken over the leadership role in our home. Most women are probably the same way. We get so used to making split-second decisions and choices that at some point we don’t even realize that we don’t even realise that we have taken that leadership role until our husbands show a bit of a discontentment.
In our home over the past couple of weeks we have had a lot of things taking place. Our dryer broke, our van broke, my stove blew up and well we have some major spiritual decisions that need to be made. Needless to say, emotions were running high. I am a get if fixed now kinda gal and my husband is more of an it will get done when it gets done type of person. In these highly stressful moments, we seem to clash….A lot.
Once my husband and I sat down to talk everything out I realised that part of the problem was me. I had taken control of all the situations and I wasn’t allowing my husband to lead. In fact, I wasn’t even listening to him as he tried to share with me his concerns. I was stealing the leadership role and I was refusing to give it up. Yep, no matter how hard I strive to be a submissive wife that good old human nature still sneaks in and messes things up. This, of course, was causing my husband to sit back and let me lead which was causing me to become very frustrated.
Ladies, I know that sometimes we feel as though there is no need to bother our husbands with the details of life but the fact of the matter is they want to be involved. When they feel as though we aren’t going to listen anyway they choose to just take a back seat. This eventually leads to us feeling annoyed and frustrated. Instead of holding on to these feelings we need to take the time to actually sit down and think about what is actually going on.
Are we taking control of all the things going on in our homes or have we involved our husbands in the thought process?
Are we taking the lead when what we really want is for them to take the lead?
Are we allowing ourselves to become frustrated and overwhelmed because we are trying to fulfill a role in our marriage that we were not designed to fill?
Once you have answered all these questions for yourself as always you need to actually sit down and talk with your spouse. The fact is they want and need to know that they are needed. They need to know that we want them to take charge, even more so when we have the tendency to actually taking control.
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