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“How do you greet your husband when he comes home?”
Yes, this is the question I have been pondering all day. The more I got to thinking about it the more I realized I do not greet my husband the way he needs to be greeted when he arrives home. Often times I meet him at his truck door saying ” You will not believe what your kids did today!!” And then the woes of my days start pouring out to him. I haven’t even allowed the man to step out of his truck yet, asked him how his day was or even told him hello.
Which led me then to ponder……How would I feel if I was greeted this way? I can pretty much tell you I for one would not like it. This type of greeting almost makes me sound like a nagging wife which is so not my intent. After all to be a woman of Proverbs 31 character he needs to know that I can handle all the situations that the kids can throw at me. And at this rate, there are days they can really throw some good curveball.
Instead, he needs and deserves to be greeted at the door (note this means letting him in the house) with open arms. He needs to feel welcomed and greeted in his castle. After all, he works every day to ensure that I can be at home to care for our home and our family. So when he comes home he shouldn’t feel that he is punching another time clock.
Now I am not saying that he should never be told that we should never tell our husbands about the day to day operations. But it does mean however that we need to approach them with these things in a calmer manner. We need to greet them with some sort of peacefulness that they can feel a sense of calm when he comes home instead of feeling like he walked into a sneak peek for a circus.
Yes, we all have bad days however we don’t expect our husbands to come home and lay out all the problems of his day on us as soon as he comes home so why should we be doing anything differently. So to fix this I intend to wait till my husband is home for a bit and has had a chance to unwind then calming let him know of the comings and goings of the day.Because like all of you I want my husband to feel like he is king of this castle and to know that we are happy to see him.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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Wonderful words here, blessed me! Thank you!!
Ashley from http://theheartofashley.blogspot.com/
I am so glad 🙂 It is amazing how as you are putting together your blogs you are able to see so much more that you are doing wrong as well as ways to improve them 🙂
I’ll tell you what happens… you wait to unleash all of the things that has happened throughout the day and when you think, ‘Now’s a good time to tell him.” You’ll have forgotten what you were going to complain about. All you’ll remember are the important details. I’m not saying that refraining from getting things off your chest is bad, it’s actually good not to fume about it. But chances are, you’ll see he’s happy and that will make you happy so when you go to discuss things, only happy things will be remembered and thus spoken about. Now the only exception that I’ve noticed since doing something similar here at my house for 2+ yrs, the big disappointments will be retold. Like why you had to run 1 kid to the ER because the other kid accidentally put his tooth through the others nose creating a flood of blood and hysteria (never have a pillow fight while jumping on the bed at ages 3 & 9, just an FYI) Or why one kid stayed home from school due to 102.4* temp then proceeded to yak over his clothes and yours… twice!Those will be remembered. What you forget about is that one kid threw a huge tantrum in the store or that the sandbox is empty and the flower beds are full because your daughter was pretending sand to be fairy dust.