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We as women can get very busy. We wake up feeling like we must run a marathon and often times we go to bed feeling like we have ran that marathon, but lost because we still didn’t get everything we needed to get done completed. We try to trim time in areas of our lives. We even make lists. On our lists we list cleaning and all our extra curricular activities are done.Yet, we forget our most important things that should be on our list….Making time for our marriage.
I read once somewhere that anyone can tend to our husband’s children, cook them dinner, clean their home and even do their laundry but only we can be their wives. Though I do not agree that just anyone can tend to my children I do see the point in this statement. You see our husband’s have needs far beyond all the things that we fret about. Often times we feel we are being great wives because we are serving balanced meals, providing a clean environment and are taking care of the children. Yet, these things can be out sourced to some aspects. What can’t be out sourced is our roles to be available to our husbands. They need is to be available to listen to their troubles, to cheer them on when they are down and to remind them that they are in fact the man that we love more than any other man in this world.
Oh how quickly we forget that sometimes. We often assume that they just know how we feel. We think that of course they know that we love them because after all do we not cook and clean for them? Sadly, just like us they need to be reminded of this. For example I know my husband loves me because he works really hard to provide my needs. Yet, I also like to be told and showed in other ways. Amazing how sometimes I forget to do the same.
We need to make sure we are taking time our of running the marthon of life to show our husband’s that we need them and care for them. It can be something simple like watching a television program that they like at the end of a busy day. (Sometimes that includes leaving the dinner dishes in the sink till in the morning. )What about a simple text or phone call at some point during the day. Not to give an update on the house or children but to simply say that we love them. These little things are helping us to make sure we are making time for our marriage.
Yes we need to strive to keep our homes some what tidy but more importantly we need to make time to show those who live in our homes that they are loved. Even more importantly we need to make sure our husbands know that we love them. Just like our children, our husbands are all ours for only a short time. We need to make sure to we are making time for them.
Sometimes that may mean we have to clear some of our plates a bit. I just had to do that myself as I noticed that I was slacking on this department. It also means that we need to hang up that expectation that our homes are going to make it on the cover of Better Homes and Gardens. Possibly we may even need to pray about all the other extra curricular activities we are involved in and possibly step down. What ever you must do by all means do it. Making time for our marriage needs to be a top priority, just under growing closer to God.
I would love to know some ways that you are making time for your marriage.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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Amen. My husband is gone for extended periods of time for His work. When he is home, we make it special. It is so important to spend time together and as you mentioned we can forget or get preoccupied with other things.
Good post, Bridget. It was an encouragement.
I am so glad that you enjoyed it and took the time to stop by here.
I couldn’t agree with you more Bridget! One little thing I do to make time for my husband is sit with him in a big comfy chair we have in our living room as we watch a family movie together each night after supper. He loves it!
Another thing we do is have a date night once a month.
We’ll be celebrating 18 years of marriage this coming April - praise the Lord! 🙂
Oh that is wonderful!! Yes, my husband loves to watch something after he gets home from work and the kids are in bed. Must be a man thing LOL. Thank you for sharing your ideas.