Saying Goodbye to Mommy Guilt

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I don’t do enough fun things with my children.

I don’t buy them all the things that their friends have.

I don’t always allow my children to do all the things that they would find fun.

I am often considered the mean mommy.

My kids drive me crazy.

Sometimes playing games with them annoys me.

These are all cold hard facts. Things that most moms will refuse to confess to others. After all in social media we are made to feel guilty if we don’t enjoy playing with cars in the floor for hours. If we don’t post pictures of our kids everyday doing some fun activity together we must totally be doing something wrong. Am I right? We suffer from mommy guilt because we feel that we are not making the cut as mothers.

Here is the cold hard facts. Our kids don’t need to be in dance class, sports, karate or any of that other stuff. They don’t need to get the latest toys, cool video games or latest clothes. They also don’t need to be bought off with crazy trips and shows. They want you!!!!

 

What does matter to your children is that you spend time with them, that you are available to them and that they are the center of your world. It doesn’t mean that you are always going to love the activities but it does mean that you do them anyway because it is important to them.

 

A lot of times as mothers, we do all these extra material things because we feel guilty. Guilty because we don’t spend enough time with them, guilty because we spend time outside the home working and guilty because we want to seem perfect even though deep down we feel as though we are failing.

 

Let’s Get Real:

Holding on to mommy guilt is not only crippling to our children but it is also crippling to us. You may not think that it is crippling our children look around. We have created an all about me world because that is what we have taught out children. As a parent we try to overcompensate for what we lack and that causes us to make bigger mistakes in the long run.

 

Focus instead on the things that you lack and trying to compete with the mom of the year on your social media feed instead what if we fall into our roles as mothers that God intended for us to be. No mother’s role is the same just as no marriage looks exactly the same.

 

Social media and pinterest has made being a mom extremely difficult. Not that motherhood has change but because it has caused us to second guess ourselves. I see moms on my feed and almost instantly I feel as though I myself am failing. But, this is not the case. In fact it could not be further from the truth because the sooner we realize that we are the mother that God wants us to be.

 

Dear Mom-

Stop comparing yourself to the girlfriend you had in high school. Stop second guessing yourself. Stop refusing to see that even though your kids drive you crazy, that some days at the end of the night you can’t always think of something to be thankful for and that sometimes you losing your cool, that you are in fact a good mom. You are the mom that you were meant to be. You are the mom that God chose for your children.

 

Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,

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