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This time of year can be so hard for those who want to homeschool but can’t because their spouse isn’t one the same page. Back to school shopping has no joy in it and seeing that giant yellow bus brings nothing but tears. It begins to feel like the dream to homeschool will never come true. All the back to school pictures that are in the social media newsfeed only seem to add salt to the wound.
I have heard of many reasons why some who want to homeschool simply can’t. However one of those reasons seems to be one I hear way more then others. Their husbands are simply not on board with the whole homeschooling thing. Oh how that very reason causes me to choke up almost every single time. You see not to long ago my husband was one of those very ones who declared we would never become a homeschooling family. Which in turn caused me to tear up every single morning as I watched our oldest get on that big yellow bus.
Instinct will tell us to keep working on our husbands. To continue to share articles, pitch fits or whatever it is that we need to do to bring out babies home. That my friends is the flesh talking. Yet, if we are to ever start to develop a Biblical marriage with our husbands then this is the very thing we need to refrain from (even on matters not pertaining to homeschooling).
In these moments it is when we need to pray our hardest to bring our children home. We also need to pray for our husbands heart and we even need to pray for our own heart. You see there is a reason that God has not laid this desire on your husband’s heart. It may be because it is not the season that God has your family in, could be that God is trying to help you learn a hard lesson in submission (which was totally my case) or it could even be because God is using your children to be light in the school system. The fact is we will never know until God reveals the reasoning. What we can take comfort in is that God hears and knows your heart. He is there right along side you.
So if you are sending your children off to school and yet you long to have them home with you know that I am praying for you. Have faith and stay strong. God has a reason for everything. Until then just keep praying.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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i was in this position for 3 years! I didn’t throw fits, but talked to my husband A LOT. He finally told me that the reason he didn’t want me to homeschool was because I was already overwhelmed! I didn’t have time for him…the kids got on my nerves….and the housework couldn’t be kept up with! He was right! Why on earth would he agree to have me add yet another thing on my plate to complain about?! It hit me hard and I was hurt by his word, but it wasn’t because he said them, it was because they were true! I started being more intentional with everything I did. I would get the song lyrics “do everything you do for the glory of the one who made you” stuck in my head. It was a journey that took almost nine months, but I finally came back to him with a better presentation of myself—not the “reasons we should homeschool” facts—myself! He agreed that I had become a lot more awesome and he thought I could take on the challenge. We have been homeschooling for 4 years now!
I say this to encourage others in that position to really pray that their eyes are open to the reason their husbands are at saying no. Make sure you are showing him you can handle it emotionally and mentally. He knows you are smart enough! Show him you are strong enough! Just my 2 cents 🙂
Great post and great reply! Your response is very similar to my situation. Being intentional, it’s a life changer!
This is great post and great comment! It seems that everywhere I turn God keeps knocking on my heart with the idea of homeschooling. I have 3 kids - 8-4-2. Oldest is in public school and I struggle every time when he rides away in a yellow bus. I need to learn to be intentional about things and get more organized. God bless you all.