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We have been told over and over again about the hazardous effects of being married in an unevenly yoked marriage. We have seen it mentioned in 2 Corinthians 6:14 when Paul warns us not to mix with unevenly yoked people. Yet sometime it happens. I know it did in my own marriage. You see when my husband and I got married we were both non-believers and then I dare to shake the foundation of our marriage. I became a believer. Here is something however that you may not know our marriage was severely on the rocks. One of our core values that we had in common had changed. While I was reading my Bible my husband was doing his own thing. It was hard.
I kept searching the scripture to find out all the duties as a wife that I was suppose to do for my husband. I stumbles across 2 Corinthians and my world came crumbling down. It was at that moment I was under the impression that already I was doing things all wrong. Of course I could’t just say to my husband that we could no longer be together because he was a non-believer. After all at this point we had our oldest son. I also read over and over again how divorce was bad. So what was I to do. Then I found this verse.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. 1 Corinthians 7:15
This was my saving grace….It was at this moment I realized what I needed to do. You see when I was willing to be submissive to my husband even though he was not living under the principles that God had laid out for us. You see we can not choose how others choose to live their lives and we can not choose how others conduct themselves. What we can do is control our own actions providing that we ask God to help us.
Now through the changes that my husband seen in me and God’s intervention my husband did eventually come to know the Lord and things improved greatly in our marriage. It was still work but we were finally at this point working toward a common goal.
Now I must note here that even during the time in our marriage that we were unevenly yoked my husband never asked me to do anything that would be compromising to God. In fact my husband was a great man before my salvation came into the picture and never once had he ever pressured me into anything. In fact he is a kind and gentle spirit. So abuse in our relationship has never been an issue.
So yes strive to be submissive to your husband even when he is not living the way God wants him to. Your actions can be the changing point for him. Do so knowing that you are being submissive because it is pleasing to God.
Until Next Time Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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A beautiful post! I’ve been told so many times about an uneven yolk marriage too. Before we were married, I was a believer and my husband was not. It wasn’t until we were engaged (and by no pressure of me) that he decided to convert.
I was surprised, but I supported him. You are right, we cannot control the beliefs of other people, but we can live God’s words through our actions.
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Thank you for this article! I believe my husband and I are unequally yoked. I thought he was a believer when we married many years ago, but now he acts so contrary to being a believer. We have been through a lot of trouble and still are struggling in our marriage. Things are not as they should be and it is heartbreaking to me, my kids, and the Lord as well I believe! But, tonight and today the Lord reminded me of His love for me and that cares deeply about what I desire, even when I don’t deserve it. I just have to focus on seeking first the Kingdom of God…and let Him take care of the rest!
I will confess that the days that we lived unevenly yoked were very hard. However, there is hope. I will certainly be praying for you and your family.