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As a mom I have many doubts about myself and my parenting abilities. After all everyone around me seems to be so well put together. I worry that I am not spending enough time with them because I have been known to get them to do activities on their own so that I can get things done around the house or on the blog. I worry that each child isn’t getting enough alone time with me. I also worry that I am not leaving them with a big enough impression of what it means to give of yourself to others.
To many times I allow myself to be discouraged by what I see when I read from other bloggers. I mean have you seen these bloggers who have time to do all these fabulous things with their children, tell us how to make 7 course meals and all while doing it with a smile. I get discouraged by the pictures I see on facebook because they seem to always seem to be having fun. I am left walking away thinking what in the world am I doing wrong?
That is before I started reading “No More Perfect Moms” by Jill Savage. It was then that I realized that all those moms and bloggers are wearing masks. As a matter of fact we all wear masks. We don’t want anyone to know that deep down inside we are screaming for help. Of course no help comes because we do not want to admit to anyone that we are way over our heads.
That is why I have found this book so liberating. The fact of the matter is we are not perfect. Nor are we ever going to be perfect. We all have those moments that we feel so overwhelmed we want to cry. We all feel like we are failing our kids from time to time. Reading “No More Perfect Moms” as allowed me to embrace the cold hard facts about myself and for the first time in a while I am happy! These thoughts that we are carrying around are far from the truth. God gave us our children because He knew we could handle them in the way that we needed to . He put other moments in our lives to help us on those times we need help and advice.
On April 1st:
Linda, Mandy, Misty and I will be going on a journey over at Marriage, Motherhood and Mission. We would love for each of you to join us. On this journey we will be taking our masks off for all the world to see and embracing ourselves for the moms we are. Not what we think we should be. I hope that you all will join us on this adventure every Tuesday and Thursday as we share videos and posts about us just being real.
If you are unsure where to find the book it is available on amazon (this is not an affiliate link). Also until Sunday Mandy from Women Of Worship will actually be giving away one free copy so be sure to head over there and enter.
Mother’s Day is right around the corner. What better gift can we give to ourselves than to finally realize that we are just what our kids need and finally learn to love ourselves. Hope to see you all there
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
***Disclaimer: I was not asked to do a book review for this book nor am I receiving any compensation for doing so. I bought my own book and just felt so strongly about it that I felt the need to pass along the info******
I would like to invite you to my Facebook group Christian Homemakers in Training where we dive into homemaking, motherhood, marriage and group devotions. After all, we all need a safe place to grow together, right?
No perfect mommy here! Thanks for sharing this, I’ll have to take a look at that book you mentioned. I’m with you, it gets really discouraging to read about too much of everyone else’s perfect lives. I typically guard myself against reading blogs that don’t share their real life with the world (you know, the reality that the craft they shared that day also went along with accidents & crying children). 🙂 Pinning this so that I can come back to it. I found you at Whole Hearted Wednesday link-up! 🙂
The book will change your whole perspective!! It was a life saver to me. I hope you enjoy the book and hope to “see” you at the study where we bare all 🙂
Love this idea! I also get discouraged when I look at Pinterest and see these women who seem to have it all together. Then I look at my own blog and realize I’m giving off the same impression.
Time to get real.
I think we all do from time to time. After all that is what we have been programmed to believe we are suppose to be. Thank you for stopping by 🙂
What a wonderful thing to do: take off masks together. I remember wearing horrible plastic masks for trick-or-treating when I was little. They were so uncomfortable and hurt my skin as well as pinched my hair with their elastic bands around my head. So thankful that no masks are required for real life. Nobody is perfect and that’s why grace is so beautiful.
I agree and love the Halloween mask comparison!!! When we wear masks we are constricting ourselves from being what God truly wants us to be. Our struggles can be an inspiration to someone else 🙂 Have a great day and thanks for stopping by 🙂
I try to be very real in my blogging, for this very reason. I share both the successful crafts and the ones that totally flop. I share the happy parenting moments, and the grief and anguish of dealing with special needs. I think there’s a tendency in the adoptive community to gloss over the hard stuff, to encourage other families to “take the plunge” and adopt. Sometimes the hard stuff can be overwhelming, and I wish someone had shared that with me before we brought home our youngest.
That is wonderful!! I have a friend who is in the adoption process I will certainly send her your way 🙂 Thank you for stopping by
This is great, I’m in! I’ve been struggling with this a lot lately. I am about midway through a 40 day fast of Facebook and at first it was harder than I care to admit, but it has been freeing in ways. I run in-home childcare and usually have about 2 hours (blessed for this I know) while everyone naps to spend on my computer. Naptime is sacred and I have light sleepers, so I don’t dare be productive in a noisy manner…so after my lessons, menus, and “work” is done I spend too much time underappreciating my own life. As a result of this fast I’ve replaced Facebook with Shutterfly and am finally getting caught up on my families digital scrapbooks. Now I find joy reminiscing in the beautiful moments of my own life! Can’t wait to read more on this topic!
I do in home care for little ones as well so I totally get what you are saying!! Glad to have you on board with us as we un-mask ourselves 😉
FAR from perfect over here! Lol
Thanks for being willing to share your real life!
Thank you for stopping by 🙂