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Nagging as wives we have all done it. Often times we nag because we are annoyed and frustrated. We want to get things done and yet we are feeling as though we are the only one who really cares. One thing we seem to forget is that nagging really never helps anything. In fact, nagging can make our situation worse. Nagging causes a rift in our marriage that in the end will never help anything and will most certainly not always mean that they will do what we ask with a joyful heart.
Nagging is deeming to our men. It makes them feel as though they aren’t good enough and that their efforts are not good enough. It tells them that we are trying to be the leaders in our home even if that is not how we mean for it to come across.
How to Stop Nagging and Still Be Heard
Nagging seems to be second nature for most of us. Just like all things nagging is just part of our human nature.
- Pray for our hearts: We can not change simply because we want to. We need to have God to step in and help to mold us and out hearts. We can’t change others but we can own ourselves.
- Express a need and drop it. Our husbands hear more than we think that they do. Sure, they may not jump when we speak but they do hear us. We need to simply express the need and then just let it go.
- Create a visual list: Just like us our men have a lot going on in their lives. Sometimes, it isn’t because they don’t want to do what we need it is more that they simply forget. Having a visual list helps them to remember.
- Continue to show our husbands love despite the fact that they aren’t working as fast as we think that they should: Withholding love from our husbands only tells them that our love is conditional which makes them not want to put in the efforts to honor and please us. Instead, we need to continue to show them the same deep love that we always have.
At the end of the day, nagging is never good in a marriage. It only causes division.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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