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Living a life that extended family members don’t understand can be lonely at times. You begin to feel as though family functions are more of a chore then a gathering of loved ones. Not that they intend or seek out to make you feel that way. They just simply do not understand. They don’t understand why you choose to only allow your children to do certain things. They don’t understand the reasons you handle things in your marriage the way you do. They most certainly do not understand why it is that you choose to do everything in your life it what seems to be a complete contradiction to the way you were raised.
It is when this happens that we have to choose. We can choose to allow the sadness to consume us or we can actively seek the joy that comes with living our lives the way God has mapped it out for us. Too many times we can allow ourselves to become fixated on the way things could be if we would simply conform our lives to mirror what others feel we should do. However- there is really no true joy in that way of life.
For our family there has been a lot of adjustments. (Mainly for me) As I have really had to look at certain relationships. Certain relationships I had to be honest with myself and I knew within my heart that I had to let them go because they were toxic to myself and my family. They were causing me to second guess everything that my husband and I were trying to accomplish in our family. Their opinions and suggestions were not filled with love or Godly wisdom.
I went through a time of grieving. In fact there are times that I still look at pictures of things post on FB about their families and it causes a bit of pain. But- I know that I made the best choice. Even in those dark moments I know that my family and I are going to be ok because we have chosen to follow God’s direction and not the world.
With all that being said it does not mean that we as a family that is going against the grain are to turn our backs on those who do not agree with our way of life. It does mean however that we have chosen not to allow ourselves to be brought down by their reactions and ridicule. We are in control of how much of our joy we allow others to steal.
Instead of allowing them to steal our blessing what about if we chose to pray for them.
Instead of allowing them to discourage us what if we instead viewed it as a testament to the fact that we are growing.
Instead of getting caught up in Earthly relationships what if we focus that energy on forming our Heavenly relationship.
It is hard when we have to walk away from relationships that we thought that by all accounts should last our whole lives. However walking away doesn’t mean you are turning your back. It does however mean that you are choosing to walk closer to God.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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