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Being submissive while things are going your way in your marriage is easy peasy. Being submissive when you feel you are in the right and your husband is in the wrong can be very hard and tricky. I myself have found myself in such a situation. In fact I find myself in this situation a lot. And I am sure you have as well.
What are we suppose to to when we are in this situation? Are we suppose to continuously bring it up our points to our husbands on why our ideas may be better? Sadly no this is not how that works. You see the more we continue to bring up this situation to our husbands the more they will turn from it. In fact it will cause you husband to dig in even deeper as to why his way is the right way. We can actually cause our husbands hearts to harden to the very ideas we want to implement.
Do we mimic actions we see on television shows and without sex from our husbands until they cave? No, nothing is suppose to keep us from preforming those kinds of acts. Unless it is a medical reason. When we do this we are causing a wedge in our marriage. We are in fact saying to our husbands “I am only expressing my love to you in that way when you do what I want”. It is certainly not telling them that we are preforming those acts because we simply love them. We are causing restrictions in our marriage beds that were never meant to be put there.
Instead we need to continue on like normal. After all when we married our husbands we chose that man to make the decisions for our family. We need to trust his choices. We need to respect his choices. Now this does not mean we have to always agree but we need to make sure that he knows that we respect his decision.
What if we instead tried to pray to God about our husband’s decision. After all if God has convicted you have what you feel is right then would it not be safe to say that He is able to also reach your husband? Sometimes when I am praying for my husband’s heart to be changed I find that it is in fact mine that needed to be changed. I figure out that it was not really God’s will I was pursuing it was in fact my own selfish ambitions. It is in those moments I must humble myself and express to my husband that he was right.
Try to instead of changing your husband’s mind seek to understand his choice. I find that because my husband and I both grew up in different backgrouds that this affects how we parent our children a lot. But it goes futher that that. Because of the way he was brought up and his life experiences he sees things different than I do. When I take the time to actually listen however to what he is trying to tell me I find that he in fact is making very valuable points.
Yes being submissive when you feel your right and your husband is wrong is a hard one to choke down. Yet it is something that is very important. After all if we start undermining our husbands authority it is the same as telling him that you don’t trust him.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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