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Once you have been married for a few years it is so easy to fall into the comfortable stage. You know what I am talking about. You stop doing the little things that used to make your husband oh so happy. I am not sure when I realized when that was happening here. Or when even this comfortable kick happened.
The “comfortable” part of our marriage seemed to happen about the time kids entered into our lives. No longer did either of us feel the need to dress nicely for the other. There was no need to fix ourselves up after all because we were busy doing kid activities anyway. Honestly the attire thing never really bothered my husband. The fact of the matter is he doesn’t really care if I am in sweats or if I am dressed nicely. However, it did begin to bother me when I noticed that I was dressing nicer for other people than my own husband.
Not only did my attire seem to go comfortable but so did my attitude. Now I believe that our husband should always get our best. Yet, I noticed I was slipping on that department as well. I was allowing others to get the best portions of me and then giving my husband the leftovers. This was the part that he minded.
You see at some point in all marriages we get comfortable. Now don’t get me wrong being comfortable with your husband is a great thing. However, we must not forget to try and impress them. We must not stop striving to turn their heads in our direction a bit. We most certainly should not stop trying to improve ourselves for both God and our husband. This is a problem that we make all to often in our marriage.
Now I know the argument could be made that our husbands don’t attempt to do all the things they used to and well I am not saying that is right either. But, we can only control our actions. Our actions are what we will one day be judged on. Would we not like to be able to say that we tried our best in our marriage. That we attempted to be the best that we could be for our husband and for our family?
This week I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone a bit. I will even give you a few ideas.
- Wear your husband’s favorite outfit for no reason at all.
- Cook your husband his favorite meal.
- Call or text your husband just to tell him you are thinking of him.
- Write him a note and slip it in his car.
- Take time to watch his favorite show with him without complaints.
- Organize an outing for just the two of you.
- Organize a date night in.
I would love for you to leave some ideas in the comments about ways that you can step out of your comfort zone and begin to cause some sparks.
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