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In the Bible, we are reminded that we need to be in a marriage that is evenly yoked. Though both can believe in God and have the same religious beliefs, this doesn’t always mean that we are in the same spiritual playing field.
I am a digger. I love to spend hours reading passages in the Bible and investigating them. I love to research as far and I can. I then write my findings in my notebooks, my Bible margins and even in my day planner. I adore mingling with other Christians at various activities and hearing a God filled message being shouted at me from a pulpit.
My husband, on the other hand, is a bit different. He prefers to listen to God’s Word being read. He tends to worship less with journals and more so with music. My husband also thrives on spending his time mostly at home due to his shy nature. Not to say he doesn’t enjoy going to Church but going to extra interactive activities are really not on his radar.
To some, we seem as though we are not on the same spiritual playing field. In fact, there was a point in our marriage that I didn’t even feel as though we were not on the same playing field. However, something we tend to forget is that we all worship differently.
Sometimes these differences, if I allow them, can cause me a stumbling block. Sometimes it causes me to feel as though I need to take over the spiritual leadership of my family. This, in turn, causes me to go through frustrated moments. Not because I question my husband’s salvation because I don’t but because I am always scared I will overstep my boundaries.
The truth is everyone’s spiritual walk is and looks different. This means that my walk is not going to look the same as my husband’s no matter how much I think I would like it to . This does not mean that my husband is more spiritual than I am nor am I more spiritual than he is. It just means that we worship and study differently.
Here is where being a help meet comes in.
We have all heard of the importance of being a help meet in our marriage. However- we always seem to forget that this also covers our spiritual lives together. We are actually supposed to feed off of each other.
We are supposed to spiritually compliment each other.
We both have different ways that God is growing us and we need to support each other in those differences.
We must seek daily to find ways to make those spiritual lives merge together, peacefully and without judgment.
We must trust God to help us to find common ground.
Above all, we must remember that it is not our place to judge anyone else and certainly not our husband.
We need to remember we can not play the comparison game when it comes to our husband.
Instead of focusing on what our husband isn’t let’s instead focus on what he is. He is a child of God and he is the man that God has chosen for us.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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