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When my husband and I first got married he was more than willing to allow me to make all our decisions and I was in heaven. It wasn’t until a “discussion” I learned that he didn’t actually like it that way. I knew then that something had to change after all I did not want to become one of those controlling wives who’s husband woke up one day and realized that he was no longer happy. Mind you I started out small trying to fix this character flaw that I was carrying around and I still have a long way to go. However, it has been a long process.
This is one of the things that comes along with being submissive to our husbands. Allowing them to make the final call. Making sure when we are making our choices that they are going to be pleased. At the very least working together to come up with a compromise that all can live with. Learning to effectively talk to each other to reach those compromises is key. But something I have learned is it easier than it seems to be. Our men were designed to take the lead. We, however, have to allow them to do so.
Kinda the same thing when you think about your relationship with God. After all do we not trust Him with all things? Do we not trust that He will provide the things we need? DO we not allow Him to make decisions on where our lives are going to go? Well once we became one on the alter God carefully designed the path that our families were going to go. However, this means we as wives have to learn to let go…….
2 Ways to Let Go of Control:
- Be in constant prayer: Do I always agree with my husband’s choices? No, however while in prayer I talk to God and I hand it all over to Him. I also am in prayer for my husband. For Him to guide my husband in the ways that God wants our family to go. Still, the outcome isn’t always the way I want it to go. But when it is all said and done I often times see why God helped my husband choose the path we did.
- Learning the importance of being willing: The more I am giving to my husband’s needs and choices the more he is willing to listen to my opinions. Again this doesn’t mean that things always go my way. But it has caused my husband to ponder my thoughts on a situation a lot more than he once did. All because I am willing ‘to do what he asked.
What are some things that you are willing to let your husband take charge if? Why is it that you are unwilling to let him take his place as head of your home? Time to have a talk with God and see what changes you need to make in yourself to help your husband become a leader. Because once he becomes the leader in your home things in your home start going back to the balance God always intended them to be in. Not only will you have a happier husband, you will also have a happier marriage.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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