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The farther I go on this marriage journey the more it never seems to stop amazing me. It seems as though no matter how long you are with your husband, you still never truly understand each other. In fact, as time goes on you both change and then there seems to be even newer things that must be learned. Marriage is a journey full of twists and turns. One lesson that I never thought I would ever have to learn is to apply grace even when forgiveness isn’t sought after.
I am from a rare group of women that will stew over a situation until it will consume almost all of my thoughts. I will fester over it, I will analyze it and I will beat it into the ground in my mind. I allow the situation to consume my actions and it then begins to pour out into everything I do. I begin serving angrily and I most certainly do not find myself to be very approachable. One thing can fix this….A simple phrase…..I’m sorry.
Sadly, most of the time I keep what is bothering me trapped inside. Half the time my husband doesn’t even know that he has done something that has offended me. So how in the world is he suppose to seek forgiveness? Other times he feels he is in the right. That is where applying grace in my marriage comes in.
This realization of having to apply grace in my marriage did not come to me easily. In fact, it was a lesson that caused me lots of tears and frustrations. After all don’t we teach our children to seek our forgiveness when they have upset someone?
In all aspects of our lives, we have to be willing to apply grace. We must constantly remind ourselves that we are not on this journey of life alone. We are on the ride of our lives with our husbands. Things will not always go the way that we feel they should. We need to understand that even though our husbands love us they will not always do things the way that we think that they should. We must have faith that just because they do something that sometimes causes us to stop and pause that they are not doing it to harm us in any way. Even though in God’s eyes we are one, we both still have different thoughts and different opinions. We do not see situations the same and we both are simply trying to do what we feel is right.
Grace has to be applied in our marriage and we must be willing to apply it often.
We must be willing to humble ourselves to the fact that things will not always be the way we want them.
We must be willing to put away our human emotions and strive to be Christ-like.
We must be willing to apply grace and offer forgiveness just like we would want to receive.
We must be willing to shed our pride and instead focus on our Christ-like love that we want to have with our husband.
Doing so isn’t always easy. However- applying grace allows healing and it prevents us from harboring ill feelings that could later become resentment.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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