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I will never forget attending a Church member’s funeral with my children in tow. Perfectly still my family and I sat through the hour long service without so much a peep to even come from one of our children. Our children had spoken all day about this moment. They wanted to be there to pay respects to the man who served them every year at VBS. As their mother I had made sure that they knew before we entered the doors of the Church just what was to be expected of them and I was confident they understood long before I agreed to let them attend this event.
Afterward, we all went into our Church’s fellowship hall to partake in a meal with the family and friends of our beloved Church member. As I was at the drink table I was taken back on all the comments about our children. People were overcome with how well our children conducted themselves. Others commented how my children always behave themselves whenever they see them. Although I can not always agree with this particular statement it did make my momma heart swell just a bit.
Often times people wonder why it is that their children do not listen and they long to know our secret and well it is plain and simple really….My husband and I, long ago, agreed to be on the same page when it came to our children (or at least in front of them),we have always been completely honest with the behavior we expect from them and they know that there are consequences tailored to each child’s needs. Yep, that is it. Simple rules that my husband and I agreed upon long before they even entered into this world.
But how did we make is stick?
To many times we think that our children should be perfect angels all the time. Simple truth they are children and it is just not going to happen. In our home our children act just like any other children. They fight, they argue, they fuss and they are rebellious. In fact my husband and I expect them to make mistakes, we realize things will get broken and we know that during the day we will never have everyone happy at the same time.
However, we remain consistent. Everyday we strive to make sure that each child knows that they are loved. We shower them with our time and not gifts or “busy” activities. We talk daily about God and what is expected of us as problems arise. We have also vowed that as a parental unit we are a team using God’s Word to guide and direct us.
Not to say that this has been easy because it certainly has been anything but easy. However, at the end of the day our children know that they are loved and that we want only what is best for them. Sometimes this is simply all that we can do.
With all of this being said I would be lying if I didn’t mention that parenting is a daily struggle. It is one that is filled with many failed attempts and a few success stories. The fact still remains as long as you continue trying to apply God’s principles in your home and as a parental unit you stand firmly together there is hope.
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