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The first myth about being a submissive wife that I felt needed to be addressed is one I have seen far to much. It saddens me and angers me at the same time……..
Being submissive means your husband is allowed to be abusive.
Now abusive can be physical, mental and sexual. I am here to say that this is false. Never were we as wives suppose to be abused. We were put here to be a help meet to our husbands not his way to get out his frustrations. Never is it ok for anyone to be abused!! Now if you are unsure about these types of abuse my friend Misty from Beautiful Ashes just completed a series dealing with them. The links I have provided will take you right to them.
What Does The Bible Say:
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. Ephesians 5:25-27 (NIV)
Now I ask you does these verses say anything about hitting us, screaming at us or any other type of mistreatment? No, it doesn’t. Our husbands are suppose to love us just as Christ loves the Church. To help nourish our spiritual growth so that we will grow.
You see just as we are suppose to build our husbands up they are in turn suppose to build us up as well. Submission in a Biblical marriage is a two way street and one not to be taken lightly.
What if you marriage is an abusive one:
Now I am not a professional but that is exactly what you should be seeing. I grew up with abuse all around me and I can say I have never seen any good come out of an abusive relationship. Seek counsel from you preacher or another professional. Whatever you do please do not ignore the problem. Once a relationship becomes an abusive on it can become extremely dangerous to you and your children. Know that my heart and prayers are with those of you who are dealing with this situation.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
****Comments are as always welcome. However make sure that these comments are written out of love.
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Great article. I have heard that, too and it’s really sad because the Bible never promotes domestic violence or abuse of any kind. Quite the opposite - in Malachi it says that the heavens were shut up to the mens’ prayers because they behaved badly toward their wives. You really explained this well!
I’m *so thankful* you spoke out so strongly against abuse in marriage. I grew up with submission being taught as the husband getting carte blanche & the wife having to go along. Divorce wasn’t an option, even if the husband was abusive.
I wish you had touched on spiritual & emotional abuse, especially since they are often more subtle & easily hidden.
The word translated “help meet” can be translated as “the help which opposes,” meaning submission doesn’t equal subservience.
Thank you for being so clear in defining what submission isn’t!
I honestly thought about writing about those but at a later date. At the moment I am just focusing on the myths that have been shared by other ladies. I agree any type of abuse is not acceptable. I lived in an abusive background and see abuse in marriages. I know how hard they can be. Thank you for stopping by!!
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