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Standing by your husband means much more that I could have ever imagined. When I first got married I thought as long as I kept the housework done, fed him good meals and I took care of any needs that I was doing all that needed to be an awesome wife. Now yes these things are important and yet these are things that anyone can do. We need to take on a supportive role when it comes to our men. This is one thing they truly do need from us and they seek to find from us.
There is a difference in being supportive and trying to take over the role as our husband’s mother. As a mom I know I tend to remind my children of their goals often. Sometimes to the point of nagging ( hey I never said I was a perfect mom). Yet this is not the kind of support our husbands need. We are in a totally different role when we are dealing with our husbands than when we are dealing with our children.
To be supportive to our husbands we need to be willing to listen. I can’t tell you how many times I have failed on this one, just as I am sure we all have. In fact I think it is one of the hardest things that we find we must do. You see stopping to actually listen to what our husband’s needs are is kind of a hard thing to do when we have about a million other things playing around in our mins. Yet as well all know communication is key in a marriage. He needs to know that no matter what is going on he can come home and talk to you about it. Now listening is not the same has trying to fix the situation for him. No, there are somethings that our men just have to do on their own. If they need our help I am sure they will ask.
To be supportive we need to let him know we are his biggest fan. Often times our husbands do not feel they are even making it onto our radar at times. You see we get to busy. We are tending to the home and to our children that sometimes we forget that our husbands need us as well. We often assume that they are grown so they don’t need our support but that could not be further from the truth. In fact they need to be reminded often that we are their biggest fan. Maybe it is by sending them a little note from time to time. Or maybe simply just again listening to all the thoughts and ideas that he has running through his mind when he feels like sharing them.
To be supportive we need to be in constant prayer for our husbands. Our husbands go through a lot. Just like it is important for us to pray for our children and our marriage it is just as important to pray specifically for our husband. I like to pray for my husband while I make up his side of the bed, while I am folding his laundry and every time I am in the kitchen when my eye catches a glance at his computer. Trust me this means I am praying for my husband the biggest part of the day. This however is an important part of being supportive because we are talking to God for him.
To be supportive we need to be willing to make sacrifices. My husband will sometimes come up with some of the off the wall ideas for us to try. Because I love and support him in his decision making process I am willing to try these things. This not only shows that I am being supportive, it also shows that I trust his choices. It lets him no that I am here to stand by him no matter what.
What are some ways that you stand by your man? How does he know that no matter what you are right there with him?
Until next time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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