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Something I am learning is that if I am not careful that I can actually begin to unintentionally disconnect myself from my marriage. After all, it’s not often that my husband will call out the fact that I have not spent a lot of time with him or that I have been too busy to notice that he is struggling. It is so easy to forget that in order to have a wonderful marriage that I need to work for it daily. In my day to day activities, I know that I must focus on spending time with God and that I also must show others God through my actions.
Becoming unintentionally disconnected with our husbands’ is certainly not something that we set out to do. Yet, it is something that we do often when we allow ourselves to become bogged down with life. After all, our homes are not going to clean themselves, school isn’t going to teach itself and well the list, as you all know, can go on and on. Many times our husbands’ won’t even tell us that they are feeling neglected or that they feel as though you are growing apart. That means that we need to make sure that we are being intentional in the marriage department.
So how is it that we can become less unintentional about our marriage?
Just because we are married it doesn’t mean that we should instantly believe that our husband knows how we feel about them and that they develop mind reading abilities that will alert them of everything going on in our heads.
- We need to make sure that we are taking the time to spend with our husbands’. Uninterrupted time with our husbands’ without cell phones, television, laptops and yes even our children. This, of course, takes a bit of planning on our parts but it is well worth it. Our husbands’ need to know that we want to spend time with them and without distractions.
- We need to attempt to allow our husbands’ to see the best of us instead of serving him what is left of us. I am so guilty of having moments where I will attend others’ needs that but the end of the day or week I am too tired to even think about doing the same for my husband. Again, I assume that he knows how I feel and he knows that my schedule has just been insane.
- We need to strive to continue to keep that dating mentality. When we were dating our husbands’ we hung on their every word. We would fix ourselves up before the picked us up for a date and we would do things that we knew they would like. As their wives’ this should not stop. Instead it should intensify. After all the longer you are married the more you learn about each other which means you are learning daily more and more things that will please your husband.
- We need to be willing to step out of our comfort zones and try new activities with our husbands. It is pleasing to our husbands’ to have us show interest in the things that they are interested in. Yes, this is not always going to start out enjoyable, but there does come a point that you will, in fact, enjoy it. After all, you don’t like building with legos or having endless tea parties, however, you do enjoy building those memories with your children.
As we begin our new year together, I encourage you all to think of ways that you can reconnect with your husbands’ and begin becoming intentional in your marriage instead of unintentionally disconnecting in it.
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