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Fact: Motherhood is exhausting. At the end of the night all I can think about is curling up in my bed and drifting off into sleep. Sadly, as for a lot of women, this is the only time that we can actually spend time with our husbands. This also means that a lot of times all that we have left in us is a few sentences and possibly a short episode of something on the television (note:this can lead to drooling). Many times I wish there were a few more of me so that I could actually accomplish everything and still have the energy to give my husband all the attention he deserves oddly enough amazon still doesn’t have a cloning device that I can order and have delivered.
Our husband’s need those intimate moments with us just as much as we need them. Sure we may think that we don’t need them but yep we do. So what in the world are we suppose to do about that little problem of exhaustion when it comes to actually having sex that also requires energy? I don’t know about you but exhaustion can become somewhat of a frustration in the bedroom if I’m not careful. After all intercourse is one of the many perks of being married. It is also one of the ways that you both can both physically enjoy a deeper connection that goes beyond words and gestures (please note sex is not the only way that you should show appreciation to each other, words and gestures are very much so important)
Ways to Beat the Bedroom Frustration:
Now I know at the moment you are thinking the only way to beat the frustration is to sell the kids and hire a maid but the fact of the matter is that there are other ways. I know world changing right. Have no fear I am going to tell you what is working for me.
- Strictly enforce quiet time during your day. My children and I have come to an agreement about quiet time. They do not have to take naps but they do have to be quiet for 2 hours everyday. They go in their rooms and play, read books and hey even take naps sometimes. However while they are doing that I take that time to do the same. I do not allow myself to work but one hour of their quiet time. Not only does this make them happier children but it makes me a happier more rested woman.
- Make Mommy time a priority. I hear to many times about why we as women think we can’t have time to ourselves. The fact is we can but we have a built in complex that keeps us from doing so. A bubble bath after the kids are asleep are just as good as a night out on the town. I myself have been counting my Thursday Night Bible study as my time and man I can tell a difference in my mood.
- Check your schedule. So many times we have too many things on our schedules. Our marriage and keeping it strong needs to be right on top of that list. Chances are there are a few things that you can scratch off your list that will help with your exhaustion.
- Push on through, chances are if you do you will be surprised. Oh it’s true. Even when you start the process not in the mood that can quickly change. Besides you never know till you try.
Intimacy in a marriage is important. Though it isn’t what marriage is all about we certainly want to make sure that we are doing all we can to make sure that we can to help beat frustrations in the bedroom due to exhaustion.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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I definitely find that if I just start the process, I am so grateful in the end!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and tips on this very relevant, but often uncomfortable topic! 🙂