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When our home church went through it’s big split we were heart broken. No, I think crushed was more like it. We couldn’t imagine ourselves attending any other church and yet we knew that this particular church was no longer an option. There was many a tear shed on that day and for weeks to come. We struggled to find a Church that felt like home. We compared each and every church to our old one. Though most churches were nice and we could have made do in just about any of them we wanted to be sure that the church that we picked for ourselves and our family would be the one that my husband and I could raise our children in and ultimately grow old together in. Now this is kind of a tall order when you think about it. Yet we learned a few things that make the search a bit easier.
- When you and your family decide that it is time to seek out a new Church home first and foremost you must be willing to let God lead. You will find plenty of great churches and you will more than likely find things you love and not love about each and every one of them. This is normal and it is also why you need to allow God to decide.
- Make sure to make sure you have given your heart time to heal. When you get to the point that you feel you must find a new church you are going to feel broken. Seeking out a new church home will most certainly cause you to look at each church through damaged eyes if you are not careful. Therefore just like in any healthy relationship you must take time to heal before you commit.
- Make sure to visit a church more then once. So many times we can visit a church one time and say nope not for me. Sadly we do not always know if they are simply having an “off” service. The preacher may be sick or something else could have happened. If you liked the church then by all means visit longer, get to know the people that make up the church and make sure to learn all that they fully believe. My husband calls this the “dating” stage and frankly I think that is the best way to describe it. After all when we married our husbands we dated them to get to know them better am I right?
- Attend a church open minded. Yes, you should definitely expect that they are teaching firm sound doctrine. But, you also need to know that no church worships the same way. Some shout and holler, some sit quietly, some use music and others prefer to let the sound of the congregation be their music. The fact remains that every person worships different the same as every church.
- Before you even start attending a new Church sit down as a whole family and decide what you feel is important. For example: 1. Do you need the church to have a good standing children’s ministry 2.What kind of environment are you seeking? 3.Do they have functions that will minister to individual needs as well as the whole family’s needs? 4. Do they have a church constitution and if so do they outline what you believe?
- Once you and your family find a church that you enjoy feel free to speak with the pastor. I actually strongly encourage that you invite them over to your home and as a family discuss your family’s needs.
Seeking a new home church is hard. Yet, as most of us know fellowship with fellow believers is such an important part of how we stay encouraged and on the right path. Therefore don’t give up. It can take months to find a home church that you will find to be a perfect fit.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,