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Parenting multiple children can hard. Who am I kidding it is hard. It’s bad enough trying to balance all their activities, homeschooling responsibilities, and all the cleaning. But, when siblings begin to fight with each other it can make it all overwhelming.
Many times as a mother we think that it is our fault. Like maybe it is something that we are doing wrong. We retrace our steps and try to find out all the answers. Yet, just like other mothers we often times come up short on answers. We begin to wonder if they will ever stop fighting, if they will ever know how to simply love each other and will they ever bond naturally.
Mommas, today I saw a glimmer of hope.
You see my kids are those children who look great, happy and loving in public. At home, however, they are in a war with each other. There are many days I wonder do they even like each other much less love each other. It breaks my momma heart and yet today I saw a huge sign of hope.
You see as mothers we forget that fighting among siblings is natural. It’s their way of showing their independence. It’s the clashes between their personalities. But, there is hope and we can regain peace.
This peace, of course, takes a lot of work from us. It means that we have to remember that though it is natural it is not something that we can ignore. After all, it is up to us to minister to our children’s hearts. It means that we have to be willing to pause working on the to-do list and focus on the situation at hand.
So how can we minister to their hearts?
- Character training: This is huge. Not only does it cause the child to see what they are doing is Biblically wrong but it is also something that they will need when they begin their Christian walk.
- Reminding the often that everyone’s feelings matter: Kids feel things so strongly that sometimes they forget that not only do their feelings matter but so do other people’s feelings. Hey, even as adults we sometimes forget.
- Take time to teach your children how to listen: In the midst of arguments, we often forget to stop and actively listen. Take time to listen and help them learn how to effectively listen.
- Don’t give up: Momma don’t give up: They will get there. I promise that they will. It takes time and it is a process. But, it is something that they will learn.
I want to help you succeed that is why I have made flashcards that have Bible verses to help remind your children what God says about fighting and forgiveness. To receive your copy just fill out the form below and they will be emailed to you shortly.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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