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So last week I shared the most heard myth I have faced when I talk about submission which is that women who are submissive to their husbands allows their husbands to be abusive. This week I am covering one that myself and a few other women bloggers have faced which is (drum roll please)……………….
Women Who Are Submissive Are Door Mats
Now let me first start out by saying I almost always laugh at this one because anyone who knows me knows that I am one of the most opinionated people ever. Those same people will also tell you that I am not one to be taken for granted. I am gullible to a point which is where my rock star husband kinda brings me to my senses but for the most part I am very level headed. I come from a long line of women who speak their minds and well call me old fashion but I am not the one who intends on breaking that trend anytime soon. Are the women in my family all submissive? No. Have I found a happy medium in my marriage for my point of view to be heard and still be submissive to my man at the same time? Yes.
You see I do not think that God intended for women to go around like mindless individuals who never had thought of their own. We were to be a help meet for our man. We provide so much more help to our man than just keeping his house clean, providing him with meals and tending to the children. No just like men God gave us gifts. We each have the abilities to do special things in God’s ministry. We were also given the ability to rationalize things in our own minds for ourselves. We know when we have done right and we done when we have done wrong.
Being submissive in a marriage doesn’t mean you give up these things and become a door mat. It does mean that you are allowing your husband to take the lead and you follow. Your man however still needs you imput on things (after all you are his help meet) but you do so in a loving way. Does your man always go with what you say? Nope. But because you have expressed yourself in a loving and nurturing way your opinion is heard.
As I thought about this post I was reminded of my oldest sons first school assembly he had in school. They were talking to the students about being door mats. They referred to people who were door mats as those who do not dare go against the crowd. Instead they do what ever is expected of them from their peers. When one is a submissive wife you are going so far away from the world expects of you. Instead you are being an example. You are being a light in a very dark world because you are willing and brave enough to say this is the way God wants me to be in my marriage and this is more important to me than being right.
Being submissive also requires us to be brave. I can not tell you how many times I have been confronted because I choose to conduct my marriage differently than others do. Can I tell you that those same people who have confronted me have also not had marriages that have lasted as long as mine? It is because I have faith in my husband. I have a servants heart towards him. My need to please him is the same today as when we started dating. It is this willingness that has formed an unbreakable respect in our marriage. I know when I speak to my husband about issues that he is truly listening. He is wieghing out those options way before he makes the final call. He values me and my opinion. If you speak to other women in Biblical marriages I do believe they would tell you the same.
For those of you who are being submissive and are hearing this whole ” your a doormat” spill then I say good for you. I will be a doormat right along with you because I refuse to conform to what society thinks that my marriage should look like and I will continue to instead follow my marriage manual (the Bible). And I would like to leave you some parting words from my manual on all things.
Listen to Me, you who know righteousness,You people in whose heart is My law:
Do not fear the reproach of men,Nor be afraid of their insults. Isaiah 51:7
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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