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Finding time to make a marriage work on a “normal” work schedule is hard enough. When you throw in the possibility that you could both end up working on opposite shifts and schedules at some point or another can be a bit overwhelming. Many couples in this particular season can begin to drift and struggle with staying connected. After all, it is hard enough to find time to connect with each other when you work and have children. Adding opposite shifts is just adding yet another obstacle.
Working Opposite Shifts and Rocking Marriage
Though working opposite shifts or having completely different schedules from your spouse isn’t exactly ideal for keeping the love and romance burning brightly in a marriage there are still many things that can be done to stay connected if both parties in the marriage are willing to try. (Although sometimes if only one person in the marriage starts making sparks the other will quickly follow suit).
- Keep open lines of communication: It is so easy to start to just handle life on your own when you don’t see your other half that much. However, this is deadly to a marriage. It is important to include them as much as you can on the day to day operations. In today’s technology-driven world this is sort of easy. Just don’t forget that communication needs to be about more than bills, children discussion and picking up milk from the store. Make sure to add some spicy messages in there as well.
- Continue to strive to do small things for each other: Small things are the mortar to our marriage building blocks. It’s the small things that made us fall in love with each other and it is these same small things that keep giving us the warm fuzzies when our men walk into the room. Make sure to make those fuzzies keep growing by keeping up those small things. Special lunch with a handwritten note, special visit to sit with your guy on his break at work, picking up a few of his favorite snack for home, or well whatever it is that makes your man smile….Do that.
- Make time even when it seems impossible: When you are on opposite schedules and shifts time is so limited. So when you discover that there is a small window of time that you can spend with each other jump on it. Yes, it may mean that you have to cancel something, rearrange something or change your normal routine but in the end, it is worth it. Even if you can’t totally clear the schedule run the errands together, help each other with the tasks that need to be done and just simply spend a bit of time together. In the end, marriage is all about doing life together right?
- Remind yourself often that this is just a season in a lifetime of more seasons together: Just like all the other areas in your life, this is just another season. There are still many more seasons that you and your man will be in together. This season will help mold and grow you as a couple. So just hang in there. stay focused and keep your eyes on the prize at the end of the tunnel.
****A Little Something to Help You on Your Journey****
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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