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Over the years my husband and I have had rocky patches. Many rocky patches I might add. It is not because of the lack of love between us it is because we both are two totally different people. Polar opposites attract and they also clash from time to time. One thing that has remained true is that at the end of the day we love each other and we have each others back no matter what. But how does one look past those little pet peeves and truly love the person for the person? The first couple years of our marriage I admit I had a lot of growing up to do. I also admit that I was in shock that romance seemed to take a back burner when bills and kids started coming along. We were young and had no clue what we were doing. However here are a few things I have learned……..
- I have imperfections just as he does: It used to drive me insane some of the silly things that he would do. I was amazed at how crabby I could be. I was even more amazed that he would so quickly point out my flaws as well. One thing however we agree about is we both have things that drive us crazy about each other. Instead of focusing on these things we have learned to focus on those characteristics that we love about each other.
- We can not change our spouse: No matter how hard you try you can not change your spouse. We are only in control of our own actions. We can lead by example. Instead of waking up in the morning and thinking of all the things you want to change about you spouse so that he can please you think of the ways that you can change to please your spouse. Change happens when we are willing to step outside the box and change within our selves.
- When disagreements happen view it from the other’s position: This is a hard one for me. When I feel I am right I find that I will go to the ends of the earth to prove that I am right. However when I take time to look at my husbands position I have to admit I see his point. More often than not he is right. At the end of the day we are on the same team and we want what is best for our family.
- When in doubt sit it out: My husband and I have not seen eye to eye of quite a few things. Because I love him and trust him I will however go along with his way. After all in our marriage I have a say in all things and I do believe that as the leader of this family he does have final say. I must admit that normally his ideas do work out quite nicely and when they don’t it is a great learning experience for the both of us.
Now I am sure that there is more that I have to learn about this whole marriage thing. After all God is showing me daily that there are areas that I can improve. I do think however my husband and I are on the right path. Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,I would like to invite you to my Facebook group Christian Homemakers in Training where we dive into homemaking, motherhood, marriage and group devotions. After all, we all need a safe place to grow together, right?