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When my husband and I started dating he used to write me beautiful letters. Letters that to this day I still have tucked away. Something else for my little ones to find long after I am gone. These letters where he opened up his heart to me is truly where I began to fall head over hills for him. They did and still do mean the world to me because anyone who knows my husband, knows that he is in fact a man of few words. There are times when we are going though rough patches that I pull out these letters to remember.
I go back to remembering a time when things were simpler. It wasn’t about the 6 of us. No, then it was just about the two of us. Our lives didn’t have things like bills, car trouble, kids and everything else. We were totally absorbed with each other. We wanted to do things that were only the two of us because we didn’t want to share any of our time with anyone else.
When I focus on our beginning I see where things seem to have taken there bad turn. I see how much I have changed. Some in good ways when it comes to the ways that I once took advantage of things and other times I reveal bad changes in myself. It is when I focus on the beginning that I am able to remember what it is that I need to be doing.
In The Beginning We Were:
More attentive: When you first started dating you were all about each other nothing else in the world mattered when it was just the two of you together. Of course kids and life came along and that shifted. Yet, part of that thing that made our men know that they were the ones for us was in fact our attentiveness to them. We seem to forget to be as attentive when we get busy with life and well that makes our man feel a little less important. (Now I am not saying that he does’t need to be attentive as well but this is a website for women so I am not even going to touch that one.) What would it hurt if after the kids went to bed however if instead of working on another project we instead worked on just being attentive to our man and his needs.
More concerned with our efforts: When my husband and I were dating he has this extremely loud mustang. Truth be told I hated that car because it was so loud. It used to rumble my windows as soon as he pulled into our development. That was my cue to get up and make sure I looked my best. My husband currently drives a truck that is again extremely loud ( I am pretty sure the man just likes loud transportation). Yet, no longer do I run to fix myself up. Often he is greet with me in my pajamas or sweats and I just say it was just that kinda day. Though he doesn’t mind, I know that he also likes it when I make a little special effort. The same goes with other special efforts. When we are dating we try to show our future husbands only our best side. Yet, along the way we seem to stop doing that. We become lazy.
We put them before ourselves: I remember often saying “I am not sure what plans I have going on let me check with Robby’ when we were dating. It wasn’t that I could not go and do things I wanted to, it was that I wanted to put him first. We went to places he loved to eat even though,
here is a secret for you,we have totally different eating preferences. Now it is not that he didn’t take me to eat at places I loved, because he did, but I didn’t seem to mind putting my needs last. I seem to use to have put his needs way ahead of mine, it didn’t even seem like a chore to do so. I did it because I wanted to…Shouldn’t we still be doing that?
Yes, as weird as it may sound I have my love letters because they help to keep me focused on the beginning. Focusing on that beginning is also helping me to be a better wife to him now.
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