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Motherhood is a blessing. Filled with lots of wonderful milestones and lots of amazing moments that a mother will treasure in their hearts as long as they are living. Even the most joyful mother, however, will have moments when it seems as though there isn’t a great anything to celebrate. You are tired, worn down, burnt out and in some cases on the verge of releasing a waterfall of tears. Not very many people will admit that, though. Instead, we will slap on fake smiles and pretend.
It isn’t that you’re a bad mom for having these feelings. It isn’t a bad thing that you want everyone to think that you have it all together. These things aren’t bad because we all have these feelings from time to time. In most cases (unless you are suffering from depression which does require medical attention) this is completely normal. The goal is, however, to begin to enjoy motherhood again. To feel certain that you are fulfilling an amazing purpose. To know without a doubt that you have been given your children because God knew that with His help you could handle it.
So How Do We Begin the Renewal in Motherhood Process?
One of the main reasons that I have found is that as mothers we are striving for perfection. We feel we must have everything perfectly mapped out. We have to have things looking perfect and we want our children to have a picture perfect memory of their entire childhood. Realistically perfection is simply not possible. After all, we are all human, we all have different personalities and we all believe different things. Yes, these things are actually even present in our own homes, not just in other people’s homes. So in order to regain a renewed spirit in our motherhood journey we need to take a few steps.
- Toss perfection out the window: Yet, that is right, toss it right out! Your children will never be like the neighbor’s children and why would you want them to be? You do not have to have all the coolest craft ideas. Pinterest isn’t the online for perfect parenting.
- Allow your children to see the real you: The real you is the you that used to like to have fun. The one who dared not to follow a schedule. You remember her right? Take a day to not be an adult (within reason, of course, LOL ). Strive to take back your joy and not allow life to steal it away from you. Dare to call a surprise game night or family outing.
- Delegate some tasks: If your children are old enough give them some tasks to do around the house. Pass on some outside tasks that you currently have on your plate that can be done by someone else. Whatever it is that you have to do then do it. The season of motherhood is far too important not to be able to sit back and enjoy it a bit. We can’t enjoy it if from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed we are working.
- Apply some grace: No one parents the same. No mother doesn’t lose their cool at some point. No mother has it all figured out. We need to apply grace to our motherhood efforts just like God applies grace to us daily. This doesn’t mean that we can stop trying because well that isn’t an option. What we can do is forgive ourselves daily for the things that we have fallen short on. Trust me when your children grow older they will know how hard you truly tried.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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